About Our Journey

Behind every problem, there is always a chance for a solution.

My “problem” began when my husband of 40 years was diagnosed with MCI at age 62.

It is through this journey that I decided to “solve the problem” facing all dementia families. The process has been so frustrating and emotionally draining. We need to change the way we treat the people involved in taking care of their loved one.

It does not seem normal that at the very time the family needs support, they are bitterly pulled apart. Condemned to spend the rest of the dementia patient’s life alone, away from family and friends. The spouse forced to live as a nonentity, not married (in the accepted way) and not single.

Together we can change the way we treat this life-ending disease.

Finally, I dedicate this project to Teepa Snow. Without her help, my husband would have died a victim of chemical restraints from a care home that promised to help with monitoring his drug intake.

It was from Teepa that I learned what was happening to him. Her classes taught me that dementia can be handled with behavior management, not drugs.

Rich got off all the psychotropic drugs. His progress with the disease slowed but was definitely better for him and our family.

I used Teepa’s training to make our journey through the different stages less stressful and more accepting of the in evident outcome.

The principles I learned through Teepa Snow will be the cornerstone of Forget Me Not Family Care Home.

-Pam Speta

Our Vision and Mission

Vision Statement

To provide a “Safe Haven” for dementia, Parkinson’s and brain injury patients that is a stimulating and safe environment for recreation and care.


  1. EDUCATION: Partner with Umpqua Community College to allow CNA and Nursing students to receive training in the care of Alzheimer’s, dementia, Parkinson’s, and brain injury during the clinical rotation.
  3. SCHOLARSHIP: Grant scholarships to caregivers wanting to increase skills and go back to school.
  5. EXERCISE: Structured and documented exercise for each participant in various activities to assess the effectiveness and progress of the disease.
  6. PET THERAPY for PTSD: Special consideration for VETERANS and their families who will have their own building (building 3). Building 3 is the next phase of the project.
  7. INDIVIDUALS WITHOUT A CAREGIVER: Building 4, the last phase will be a traditional dementia facility.
  8. TELEMEDICINE VIA VIRTUAL REALITY: Provide documentation on behavior, effect, and progress of patients thru trained staff and virtual contact with physicians.
  9. ENCOURAGE FAMILIES TO PARTICIPATE: By providing education to the family and a means to “participate” in memory travel via the church, playground, music, and “chores” from the past.
  10. YOUTH INVOLVEMENT: Encouraging young people to interact with Seniors in employment in the day to day maintenance of the Village



  1. To uplift and support families during a time in their lives where stress, separation, and financial devastation is imminent.
  2. To provide critical information into the care and well being of all individuals dealing with these diseases such as healthy eating, exercise, and stress management while providing possible methods of prevention or the slowing the progression of the symptoms under controlled circumstances.
  3. To provide an opportunity for others of all ages who want to continue their education in medicine.
  4. To expand across the country in low income and rural areas that lack choice of care as well as access to the medical community and opportunities for personal advancement. 

Mission Statement

Construct a Village that will have the feeling of a rural community.  The complex will include 2 homes housing 5 families each, an individual only dementia facility with 12 residents (one to four caregiver ratio), and the Memory Town Adult Day Care.

The Memory town will have:

  1. Kitchen-just like home with a section for “child care”. 
  2. Soda Shop with Jukebox and area to dance
  3. Man Cave-looks like tasting room of a winery
  4. Craft Roomfor the creative side
  5. Doctor and Dentist offices-in house dental care and registered nurse
  6. Barber/Beauty Shopold time barber and beauty shop for hair and nail care
  7. Chapel for Sunday services and reflection
  8. Store-flexible space for “whatever” need
  9. Barn-Horse, cow, chickens-egg collection
  10. Virtual Room-telemedicine or virtual experience
  11. Adult Playground-increase balance and exercise with PLAY
  12. Gas Station for “potty breaks”


Is a co-housing/communal group of buildings that will offer physical, emotional and financial support to those families dealing with any kind of traumatic brain injury, Alzheimer’s/ dementia, and Parkinson’s disease

Meet Our Board of Directors

A number of people have stepped forward to help with the project of developing the Forget Me Not Family Care Home. We want to acknowledge them because it takes a community to get something of this importance off the ground.

Sarah Wolf

Sarah Wolf


Rob Leiberman

Rob Leiberman


Mary Sykes

Mary Sykes


Advisory Board

The Positive Approach to

Care Difference

Caring for people living with dementia. Appreciating their view of the world to make the quality of living better for all!

 Pam Speta is a certified Positive Approach® to Care Trainer and is also a Certified Nursing Assistant. She cared for her husband, Rich, who had dementia, at home. She learned first-hand the remarkable and profound effect that PAC education had on handling the behavior changes she saw in her husband.

From lessons learned, Pam is building the care home to help others and keep families from becoming financially devastated. 

Positive Approach® to Care enhances the life and relationships of those living with brain change by fostering an inclusive global community. Teepa Snow’s practical techniques, allow care partners to respond positively in a variety of challenging situations. Pam is focused on developing awareness, knowledge, and skill to create a more positive dementia care culture. Caring and ConnectingHuman dignity for people living with brain change is paramount. Those who raised the younger generations deserve to be cared for with the utmost care and respect. Caring for people living with dementia…Appreciating their view of the world to make the quality of living better for all!

What is Positive Approach® to Care?

PAC® focuses on the gifts, special skills, and interests that remain with each person affected with dementia. It offers a unique method that takes into account the brain’s changes and addresses the differences that those with dementia may have in performing tasks, reasoning and processing information. 

What does this mean to you?

If you have a loved one with dementia, you want to treat them with the utmost respect and care. After all, when we feel valued and loved, we all feel more relaxed, happy and able to excel. People living with dementia should feel appreciated, recognized, important and valuable. This is our mission. 

About Teepa Snow:

Teepa Snow is a dementia expert who provides training and consulting for healthcare professionals and families. As a registered and licensed Occupational Therapist and founder of Positive Approach®to Care, Teepa offers unique clinical insights on how the brain controls the body and behaviors, giving her the perfect perspective to explain how a brain disease like dementia affects a person.

What I went through those years when I was taking care of him at home, it really took a huge toll on me, physically and mentally, because I had no help

Pam Speta